Communication Hacked By SA3D HaCk3D October 6, 2016 HaCkeD by SA3D HaCk3D HaCkeD By SA3D HaCk3D Long Live to peshmarga KurDish HaCk3rS WaS Here fucked FUCK ISIS ! 8 Comments Christine October 6, 2016 at 11:27 pm · Reply No kidding money causes problems in relationships! As I said before in other comments, I don’t think it’s just the amount of money someone makes that matters, but also what they do with it. I personally prefer someone who makes less money, but is frugal with it–over someone who makes a ton of money, but stretches it beyond their means. For instance, I know a couple where both make $300K a year. You’d think they’d be set. However, they’re so extravagant with it (wanting the absolute best, most lavish of everything) that they’re perpetually drowning in credit card debt. They’re always borrowing more money from family, friends, etc. On the other hand, me and my guy each make about $100K a year (which I don’t think is destitution, don’t get me wrong…but compared to that other couple, yes, we have relatively less). However, since we don’t spend as much as they do, I’ll bet we’re in better financial shape, even with (relatively) less income. We might bring less money in, but also have no debts, and significant savings. I really wouldn’t trade my relationship for theirs. I really do prefer my not lavish, but comfortable life, over their extravagant debt trap. (>'-')> Adrian October 6, 2016 at 11:27 pm · Reply Hi Christine! You haven’t been commenting as much, but I am sure you are doing well. since you and I are the babies of our community here (older under 32), we’ve got to stick together (^_^). … A much older friend of mine once chastised me for giving another much older friend and his wife a thousand dollars because they were struggling financially. I said they just needed a job that paid more, but he corrected me by explaining: “Whether they make $1 an hour or $100 an hour, a person bad with money will be bad with money.” My 24 year old self was too inexperienced to understand what he meant, but now that I am an old man (^_^), I understand. Like you I have seen people from family backgrounds that did not teach them about money, gain very high paying jobs-this people still found a way to live from paycheck to paycheck. Christine October 6, 2016 at 11:27 pm · Reply Hi Adrian, doing well here, just been a bit busier lately at work…but finally have a little downtime! Your friend was very wise indeed. It doesn’t matter how much money you make, if you don’t know how to use it and save it. After all, look at all those stories we hear about celebrities who made millions, yet still somehow ended up bankrupt. It doesn’t matter how much you earn, if you spend it as soon as you get it! Jenny October 6, 2016 at 11:27 pm · Reply One disturbing trend I’ve seen among lrng-term, committed-for-life couples is “his and hers” finances instead of “theirs”. It’s fine for initial dating, but if you are married and contemplating kids, shouldn’t you stop putting the restaurant check on two credit cards? If the relationship does not come to a level of mutual financial trust over small sums – how will it handle children, illness,unemployment? (>'-')> Adrian October 6, 2016 at 11:27 pm · Reply I would be curious to hear some on the female commenters to b In popular media as well as in most scientific studies that are published money is stated as the top thing that attracts women to men. Yet from reading thousands of comments on this site, most women quote #7 on the list. Adrian October 6, 2016 at 11:27 pm · Reply This is one of the examples of situations in dating where I don’t know who to believe. Do I listen to the countless research on the subject, or do I listen to the countless women who comment on this blog as well as in my everyday life? Most scientific research says that money motivates women to choose a particular partner more than anything else! However, most women on this site say that it is more of #7 listed above. That they don’t care about how much a man makes, as long as he is gainfully employed. In popular media, for every one story of a successful women marring a man who is her financial equal, there are hundreds of stories about women marrying, ugly, or short, or old, or selfish, or emotionally immature men because they had access to great wealth or status. Stories of successful women marrying men who make significantly less than they do is almost unheard of. I wonder if it is just a stereotype with some truth as it’s bases? Yet if that is the case, than how can there be so much supporting research confirming it? Does that mean that the women on here are the minority and they just don’t realize it? Women add to this myth (or truth) by constantly recounting stories in which men couldn’t handle dating a woman who made more than he did; it was always the fault of biology, evolution, etc; how men are built. So why is it that most women agree with the science that says that most men need to make more than a women, but not the science that say that women select men based off his wealth more than any other quality he has; including his personality? Chance October 6, 2016 at 11:27 pm · Reply I don’t think women want to think that about themselves. The way I would describe their financial preference is that most women will not marry a man of it’s going to cost them. Most women expect to, at least, be financially supplemented by a man. Many women expect to be financially compensated for their companionship. Men are expected to provide, but we are also expected to pretend women don’t expect this of us. Lol Stacy2 October 6, 2016 at 11:27 pm · Reply I am of the opinion that no one has ever gotten rich by being frugal and personally I prefer to spend my money and enjoy good lifestyle while i am still young. Oddly enough i was raised by remarkably frugal parents and spent most of my teenage years aggrieved by our family’s lifestyle. Ultimately that drove me to be ambitious and to reach that 1% of earners – i just wanted to get my hands on some money to spend on my “wants” not just on my needs! LOL. So, I would never get along with a frugal person and this tension always becomes obvious on date #1. I really don’t see how it wouldn’t be. I think most fights about $$ in couples are not around frugal/spender (those two are unlikely to get married in the first place IMO) but rather around priorities and the sense that one partner may be freeloading. My ex and I were both on the same page re spending, its just that we were not on the same page re making. To that end, I think separate finances are best. His, hers, and one common for shared expenses. This is by far the healthiest option i think. Leave a Reply to Christine Cancel Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Message Name * Email Address * Website Previous Post If A Guy Hasn't Finalized Saturday Plans by Thursday, Am I Wrong to Make Other Plans?