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Texting is changing the conversation, quite literally, in the dating world. Of course, if you’re not comfortable with asking a girl out in the first place, it might prove to be even more of a challenge to do via text. Texting is a common form of communication these days, but you still do not know how to ask a girl out over text and that still doesn’t make it easy. When it’s hard to tell things like tone and inflection, it is a tricky road to learn how to text effectively.
The good news is that texting is a lot less confrontational than having to ask her face to face, which is why some people prefer it. You can avoid the personal rejection and know from a distance whether you’re going to get your shot. When you take the time to do some research, you’ll find everything from cute ways to ask a girl out to great text one-liners that will get her attention and more.
Here's what you need to know about asking a girl out via text and keeping her engaged in the conversation.
The first text is basically the same as the initial conversation starter in a physical interaction. Therefore, you need to think carefully about what you’re going to say and how to say it. You don’t have to have a full-on conversation just to ask her on a date but start with more than “what’s up” or “will you go out with me?”.
Here are some other tips to help keep your texts engaged and get better chances of her saying yes when you ask her out through text message.
If you’re using text and you want to get her attention (and get a yes), here are some examples to help you along the way. [Read: How to Talk to Girls Online]
Ask her about her favorite cuisine, and then segue into whether she’d like to go out to eat sometime. Tell her about this place you found or ask her about her favorite place and if she can show you (your treat, of course).
You can also comment on how everyone has to eat lunch so maybe you should eat it together sometime. This is fun, casual, and lets her answer honestly or decide if she’d rather do dinner or another date idea entirely.
Invite her out for a private celebration, such as dinner and drinks. Make it casual if you want so that there’s less pressure, but make sure that you express your pride and how you want to celebrate what she’s done.
Of course, one of the more amusing and unique ways to ask someone out is with a meme. You can create your own and get bonus points for creativity, or even use one of the thousands upon thousands of memes that are already out there today. Find the perfect one, send it along, and she’ll be ready to go out with you in no time at all.
Perhaps you have an engagement or event where you’ve got a plus one but no “one” to take. This is a great way to ask her on a date with less pressure. Sure, you’re interested in her, but mostly you don’t want to look foolish being alone—make it seem like she’s helping you out and doing you a favor, and reassure her that you’ll make it worth her time. [Read: How To Talk To Women]
What to say when asking a girl out? Some other cute text ask-out lines include:
The bottom line is to make sure that you get her attention and don’t overdo it with the cheese factor. Make sure that she knows that you’re into her and that you aren’t just asking her out for a friend date or a quick meal—you want more. It’s great to have text because it gives you time to create the perfect conversation. However, that can also make it that much more difficult for you to reach out and make the right words come together to get a “yes” when you ask her out via text. With these tips and suggestions, you should have no trouble getting more confident in using text to ask girls out and keep them interested in you.