Are you currently in a “situationship” that you want to take further? Situationships are hard to define. You aren’t in a real relationship with the person, even though you spend a lot of time with them.
You care for one another, or at least you believe and hope they care for you. It might have started as something casual and never progressed beyond that. Maybe they are someone that you’ve had a crush on and who is your friend, but neither of you has committed to anything yet. Now, you want to take things to the next level and make it official. How do you do that? Here are some tips.
Hang Out More Often
One of the first things you can do is try to hang out more often and do things that are different from the norm. If you are just casually hooking up with the other person, ask them out to dinner, coffee, or a movie… an actual date. Try to find ways that you can spend more time with the other person to get to know them in other ways.
Bring Them Deeper into Your Life
Along the same lines, you want to try to bring them a bit deeper into your life. This means having them meet your friends and family. When you are more involved in each other’s social lives, it helps to take your situationship on a new path. You become more connected to one another. When you interact with each other’s friends and family, it provides social recognition beyond just the two of you.
Find Out What the Other Person Wants
This is essential if you hope to know whether the situationship is worth trying to turn into a relationship. You need to know more about what the other person wants. Not necessarily about the relationship, but about life in general. This way, you can get a better sense of whether the two of you are on the same page. If you find that you don’t want the same things in life, it might be better not to pursue a relationship at all.
When you learn more about what they want in the future, you will also have a better idea of where they see you in their future. If they say that they want to have a deep bond with someone, and they see you as part of their life forever, it’s a good sign.
Be Open and Talk About What You Want
Of course, you also need to start being more open about what it is that you want. Often, they won’t know unless you tell them. People, regardless of gender, tend to be clueless about a lot of things happening all around them. If you don’t make it clear that you would like to progress having a relationship with them rather than just what you have right now, they may never know.
Give an Ultimatum
If they say that they need some time to think, that’s okay. Try not to get worried. However, you can’t wait forever. It might sound harsh, but you will eventually need to give them an ultimatum. What are they going to choose? You deserve to be able to move forward with your life whether it is with them or not.
With these simple tips, you can take your situationship and turn it into a relationship if it’s meant to be. If not, it’s better to have learned that now rather than continuing to continue being connected to someone that doesn’t want the same things.