If you’re going to have an affair, you likely want to keep it discreet. Doing that requires taking the time to plan dates that are covert and won’t get you caught—don’t take your affair to your favorite coffee shop where all your parent friends go, for one—it’s all about planning. Fortunately, there are some great tips and advice out there for people who are trying to have discreet affairs, including great places to take them for that ever-so-important first meeting.
Eventually, your affairs may end up in a hotel or motel room. However, if you’re meeting for the first time and aren’t just planning to skip straight to sex, you may want to meet somewhere and chat about life or get to know each other a bit. Regardless of what you have in mind, here are some great places to meet up with that secret someone, no matter where you live.
Location #1: Try a New Coffee Shop
We said don’t go to your usual place, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t dozens of other coffee shops out there within your reach. Depending on where you live, you can check out other chain locations or find a cozy local place that offers up a more discreet and intimate environment. You could even ask your date to suggest a place on their side of town or in a nearby city—it’s all about finding what works for both of you. Affairs start with conversation and this is a great place to have one.
Location #2: Meet at a Park
Parks are nice because they can be discreet, but they’re also public so they offer an air of safety for first meetings. And, if things go well or you decide you want some privacy, your cars are right there so that you can get away from the rest of the world and get a little cozier. Parks are also nice for walks and helping with conversation topics because you can talk about the scenery, the wildlife, etc.
Location #3: Cars
That’s right. A lot of people who are having affairs spend a lot of time in each others’ cars. It might sound strange but where else can you be alone without having to leave town or rent a room somewhere? It offers an option for quick meetups and longer encounters and even makes moving around easy. You’ll just want to make sure that you clean up any potential evidence before you go home when you’re having an affair in your car. Cheaters and affair partners are used to tight spaces and limited options, so it might not be so inconvenient. [Read: Signs Your Wife is Cheating You]
Location #4: Casinos and Bars
If you live somewhere with a casino, that can be a fun way to meet for an affair for the first time. Just make sure it’s not the casino that your husband goes to every week or you’re on the fast track to getting caught. Bars that you don’t normally frequent or that you know your friends and family won’t visit are also a great place to meet up with your affair partners for the first time, or even for dates after the first one.
Location #5: At a Game Center
Arcades and family fun centers are a lot of fun for all kinds of dates. Because they’re usually packed with people, they’re also a great place to blend into the background (so long as you don’t go to the one place all your friends and their kids go). Make sure that you check out arcades and game rooms that allow you to play and engage with your partner without having to just sit and chat. It can be more enjoyable and leads to better conversations and connections in a lot of cases. Plus, it lets you see what their competitive nature is like, which is always fun. [Read: Having an Affair with a Married Man]
Location #6: Boats for Those Near Water
If you live near the water and have access to a boat or even a charter or rental, you should consider it for your affair meetings. It’s a discreet way to connect and it offers that air of romance that you might be looking for. Yachts, sailboats, and all kinds of crafts are available depending on where you live and what kind of water you have access to. You can spend some time out on the water and enjoy a great day, or evening, in a variety of situations and crafts.
Location #7: The Movies
Although most people don’t recommend a movie for a first date, this might be different for an affair. Yes, you’ll want time to talk, but you also can benefit from the darkness of the theater to enjoy each other’s company without the risk of being caught. Go see an unexpected movie or visit a cinema in a nearby town to make it even more clandestine. Just make sure that you don’t become those people trying to talk through the movie. [Read: Ashley Madison – Non-Biased Review of Affair & Poly Dating Site]
Location #8: A Hotel or Motel
As long as there is a conversation about the parameters, the intentions, and the situation that you are entering, you can meet for an affair in a hotel or motel room. You can even meet them in the parking lot or at a nearby store first and then relocate. Perhaps you’ll sit in your car for a few minutes until you’re both comfortable and then go up to the room to continue talking or whatever you decide to do. Just make sure to pay in cash and leave no evidence because if you get caught, it’ll surely be for a slip-up like booking under your real name.
Location #9: Business Trips for Cheaters
Business trips are a great way to spend extra time with someone when you’re having an affair. One of you is expected to be out of town, so it won’t be suspicious that you’re gone. The other can likely come up with a reason to also leave town, even if they fib about their intentions or destination to keep it a secret. Then, you’re out of town and away from everything that you know so you can enjoy each other more with less worry about getting caught.
Most importantly, make sure that you don’t have affairs at home, at work, or in places where your friends and family frequently visit or spend a lot of time. That way, you’ll have a much better chance of keeping it a secret for as long as possible.