Dating in the sugar lifestyle takes a little bit of learning. You can’t just dive in and hope for the best. To be successful, you have to know how to act, what to expect, and how to ensure that the first date is everything that both of you expect. If you want to keep things casual and still make sure you’re on the same page, you can do that, and so much more.
In this article, we’ll cover six important tips to ensure that you’re ready for your first sugar date and every date after that, no matter what you’re looking for in this type of arrangement.
Rule 1: Communicate and Be Honest
The biggest tenet of sugar dating is honesty and transparency. You have to know what you want as a sugar daddy, baby, or momma. You also have to know what you expect from a partner, and that you can live up to the expectations that someone has. If you find a sugar daddy that is explicitly interested in things you aren’t, for example, you won’t want to waste your time.
Make sure that you express everything upfront and be clear about what you want. They should also be clear and upfront. Otherwise, it could be a warning sign that they don’t know what they want or that they’re not really good for the sugar lifestyle after all. Honesty is the only policy so make sure that you find someone that you can talk to and connect with for everyone’s benefit. Even if you’re just having fun, you need to be able to keep it real.
Rule 2: Have a Public Meeting for Safety
You should always meet your sugar daddy for the first time in public. This is a safety issue for everyone involved. Even if it’s just a park where there aren’t a lot of people but it’s still “public”, that’s better than meeting down a hidden lane or in a private parking garage where no one can find you. In the same realm of concern, you might want to choose a confidant that you can confide in and tell them where you are going, or at least send them a picture of the person’s license plate for safekeeping until you let them know you’re safe again.
It's a lot to consider, but don’t let it deter you. If you’re safe, you can have a lot of fun with sugar dating. You just can’t dive in without doing a little planning and preparation. That includes being safe about meeting.
Rule 3: Keep Your Moral Dilemmas to Yourself
This sounds brash, but it’s true. You’re in a sugar relationship or having an affair—most of these situations aren’t about real-life stress and drama. They’re designed to get away from that. No partner in a sugar relationship wants to sit around and listen to you ponder whether you’re making a bad decision or deciding whether you can handle being in the sugar lifestyle. Figure it out for yourself and save everyone else the stress. [Read: How to Get a Sugar Daddy to Give You Money? ]
Sometimes, people want to confide in their sugar partner, or they get carried away and don’t think about what they’re doing. Before they know it, the fun time turns into an entire existential crisis where you’re asking the guy from 4D to help you decide whether you should leave your husband and embrace the sugar lifestyle full-time. That’s not his call to make. Call your best friend or a family member that you can trust.
Rule 4: Don’t Compromise Yourself
It can be tempting when you find what seems like a good connection to do things you may not normally do or offer things you might not offer otherwise. However, if someone is right for you, even in the sugar world, they’ll accept and honor your boundaries and respect you and your role in the sugar relationship. If someone expects you to compromise or asks you to change your mind about what you’re willing to accept or what you want, they’re probably not right for you in the first place.
Rule 5: Don’t Assume You’ll Get Cash
Too often, people get into the sugar baby lifestyle because they think they’ll just be handed cash by some rich handsome man (or rich beautiful woman) who enjoys their company. Some sugar relationships aren’t based on actual cash, but dates and money spent on outfits, beauty treatments, etc. If you are looking specifically for a sugar daddy or sugar mama because you want cash, make sure that’s clear in your profiles and ads when you’re listing yourself on sugar dating sites. [Read: How to Start a Conversation on a Dating App? ]
Rule 6: Don’t Waste Anyone’s Time
A sugar daddy is usually a wealthy, established professional whose time is very valuable. A sugar mama is the same but in female form. The point is these are busy people. Their time is valuable. So is yours, for that fact. If you’re not sure what you want here or if sugar dating is right for you, don’t act like you’re ready to dive in headfirst. There’s nothing wrong with admitting that you’re new and taking things slow, but don’t waste people’s time. If you realize this isn’t for you or that you aren’t a good match, say so right away. They will thank you.
There’s a lot that goes into creating a solid sugar relationship, but the first date does a lot. Make sure that you go into it with reasonable expectations and an agreement of what you are both looking for or expecting with the date. With these rules in mind, you should have a much better experience and you will be more likely to find a compatible match the first time around. This is just like any first date. You need to be honest and have reasonable expectations, and you need to discuss those expectations with your date to ensure everyone is on the same page. If you can do that, you can succeed at sugar dating well beyond the first date.