If you’re in the market for a sugar daddy, you won’t have to look far these days. There are plenty of online sugar dating sites and apps dedicated specifically to sugar relationship, making it simple for everyone to find the connections that they want. Choosing a sugar daddy starts by understanding what you want from the relationship as well as what expectations you have of a sugar daddy specifically. To help you out, here are 10 questions to ask when considering your potential partners.
10 Questions to Ask Sugar Daddies
1. What do you expect from an ideal relationship?
This is an important one because it helps you get an idea of where their head is and what they want from you, without directly asking. Sometimes, asking this indirectly will get a more honest answer than trying to put someone on the spot. Plus, it will let you know where their expectations are so that you can keep up your end of the relationship.
2. Is this the first time you’ve been a sugar daddy?
Some people are naturally good at the sugar daddy role and will have done it many times before. Others may be considering it for the first time. There isn’t necessarily one that’s better than the other—it’ll just help you to understand them better if you know what their experience is like. After all, if this is their first time, they may have just as many questions as you.
3. Can we talk via text or on the phone?
This not only helps you understand the options you have for communicating but may advise you as to whether your sugar daddy is married or in another relationship. Of course, you could come right out and ask, but sometimes that comes off as rude or off-putting. Make sure that you set the parameters of the mutually beneficial dating relationship from the beginning so that there is no wondering or uncertainty because you don’t want a miscommunication to ruin the relationship. [Read: Sugar Dating Tips]
4. What are you hoping to get from me?
This is important because it will allow you to know what he expects and how you can deliver on those expectations. Doing your part as a sugar baby ensures that your sugar daddy feels good about living up to his part of the deal. This can also tell you a lot about a person in general and even about his personality, based on the way he answers this question.
5. How will I be compensated or given allowance?
Some sugar daddies like to give gifts. Others prefer cash. Still more have their own preferences for treating their sugar babies—maybe you have a preference to consider here, as well. If you make the arrangements ahead of time and make sure everyone is on the same page, there will be no issues that come up along the way in terms of compensation or the “sugar” part of your relationship.
6. Will you pay for necessary outfits, beauty expenses, etc.?
Some sugar daddies will take babies out on dates, have them be a “plus one” or want them to look a certain way for a certain event—because of that, they may also be willing to spend money on clothes, beauty care, and treatments, and so forth, to ensure that you look exactly as they would like. Again, however, you need to establish this upfront so that everyone is on the same page. If they are not willing to pay for specific outfits or looks, you have the right to refuse to give them that privilege. [Read: Sugar Baby Rules]
7. What are your sexual expectations or needs?
This may be a large part of the sugar relationship, or it might not be involved at all. Believe it or not, some sugar daddies aren’t looking for sex, or who are simply looking for companionship of some kind. Then some may have very specific expectations or be willing to provide better gifts or allowance for those who are engaged in a sexual relationship. It also helps determine if you’ll be sexually compatible, which is important.
8. Will our relationship be exclusive?
Again, it’s all about managing expectations here. Does your sugar daddy expect you to stop seeing all other men? Are you expecting him to not see anyone else? This is a term that you both have to agree on if the arrangement is going to work at all. You can’t go into a sugar relationship with someone who’s on a different page than you. It just doesn’t make sense, let alone have a chance of working out for anyone involved. [Read: Guide to Find a Sugar Momma]
9. Is this ongoing or will there be an endpoint?
Some sugar daddies and sugar babies are seeking a limited engagement or a short-term arrangement. For example, a man may be in town on business and want a beautiful woman to spoil and take to company events as his “plus one” so that he doesn’t have to go alone. In some cases, sugar relationships may go on for years and years—you don’t necessarily have to know what you expect, but asking this question allows you both to consider what you’re expecting.
10. Are we in an NSA (no-strings-attached) arrangement?
Some men prefer to be a sugar daddy without any other strings. They just want someone to spoil and then you can both go back to your lives—there are no expectations, no obligations, you just get together, have fun, and then go on about your life. Other men will want more of a commitment or at least an exclusive type of agreement that lets them know that you’re not going anywhere.
Make sure to add anything to this list that is important to you, as well. After all, this is your mutually beneficial dating, and it should be everything that you want. When you ask the right questions, you’ll find the best connections and be able to get more out of your sugar relationships, no matter what you have in mind.