How to Talk to a Girl You Like Without Being Nervous

Are you nervous about talking to that girl you like? If you feel a bit anxious, you aren’t alone. It happens to most people. The palms start to get sweaty; you can feel your head throb and your throat start to close. Getting the words out seems impossible, and you worry that you will say something silly. Not cute or charming silly, but weird. That’s the last thing you want to do since you like this girl. It might seem like the best course of action is just to avoid talking to her at all. However, that’s the wrong attitude to have.

You don’t need to memorize any pickup lines, and you don’t need to put on a false personality. You can learn how to talk to your crush and even more importantly, learn how to connect with her. Of course, you just need to be a bit more confident and know how to do it the right way. Fortunately, there are some simple tips you can follow.

No Pedestals

Yes, you like this girl, but if you are putting her on a pedestal, it can seem like she’s out of reach. What you need to do is realize that you are both great. Yes, you’re great, too. Never feel less-than. You are a good person, and you’re just as much of a catch as she is. You might be the right fit for one another. But if you aren’t, that’s okay, too.

If you need some help with your confidence, think about all of the good things about yourself. Keep those things in mind when you are talking with her. Confidence is attractive. [Read: 7 Things You Should Know About a Man Before Dating Him]

Rather than waiting and wondering from afar, isn’t it better that you built yourself up and talked to her now? Find out now whether there is a romantic future ahead of you, or if you should just be friends. This way, you aren’t pining away over what might be.

Be Genuine

One of the best ways to connect with someone is to be genuine when you speak with them. Ask them a question or comment on something around you. You don’t need to try to impress them with your wit. Often, this backfires anyway. You just want to be your genuine self when you are striking up a conversation. It’s important that you converse with her and be sure that you are listening when she’s speaking, even though you might feel nervous.

By listening, it shows her that you care about what she has to say. You’ll find that it also helps to propel the conversation forward since you can react to what she’s saying. [Read: When and What to Text After The First Date]

Don’t Seem Desperate

Desperation is easy to see a mile away, and it’s not attractive at all. It tends to repel people more than attract them. Before you approach her to strike up a conversation, take a deep breath and clear your mind. Remember, even though you like her, if she doesn’t reciprocate, it’s not the end of the world. You can still have a nice conversation, and it’s better to know early that she’s not interested in you.

If you are rejected, realize it happens to everyone at some point. It’s not the end of the world, and you shouldn’t be upset at either yourself or her. It just means it wasn’t the right fit.

Connections Aren’t Usually Magic

Having one conversation with someone is not generally going to be enough to have them fall for you. It takes repeated, good interactions where she feels comfortable. You’ll find that the more you talk with her the more comfortable you will get. This will make things easier if you believe that they are headed in the right direction.